Judgements !!!

Hello All,

I am writing the first time in this new year so first of all I wish you a Happy and Prosperous year ahead.

The topic that struck my mind this evening was that of being Judgemental.

It is human nature to be curious and to learn and as we grow in life we tend to gather our thoughts, ideas, ideologies and perceptions. As we grow we tend to think and differentiate right from wrong and loose the child within us, the child who had no judgments but just pure heart.  A child who is often representation of God in some cultures and the reason being that child does not differ or pass judgments on others because he/she is in the purest form of life and just understands how to enjoy the gift of GOD.

A child is someone we need to learn from because it is in childhood that change and acceptance comes so easy. A child who is easy to mould into a mould of human choice like a spirit which needs to be moulded into loving the humanity and eternity in purest form.

We in our lives tend to forget how many judgements we pass in each day without even realising how hurtful it can or maybe to others, how it could ruin someones identity, how it could turn ones life around. It is these judgements that could change the course of life for anyone making a person drive to depression, negativity and loss of self  identity.

 It is very important to be aware of what are our perceptions are and that they could differ from those of others. It is what one learns from ones experiences over period of time and so it differs from experiences of others and hence perceptions of others. When we pass judgement all we say is our perception is the right one without respecting or understanding the perception of others.

So being mindful is very important aspect of being in a community, a community which needs positivity, growth, development and that can come only when we respect experiences of others and learn from them rather than having to go through them ourselves and thus become a more evolved human being.

 It is being Non judgemental the highest form of  purity and eternity and the ultimate gift to hmanity. 

Have a great day/evening.

Be Well

Coach Nupur.

The Fear Factor – A short story

 The Fear Factor

 

As Sheila was fighting with the thought of going to the doctor for small thing such as a corn on her feet , it was the thought of her having to go through the surgery to remove it that was freaking her out. Imagine if she would have told somebody of the thoughts that were bruising her mind they would laugh at her, but it was the word surgery that was overwhelming for her. Actually it was after she had gone through six surgeries of which two were major ones the word had developed a negative impact on her. She somehow mustered up the courage to go to the doc anyways, since it was something she was avoiding for past one month and it was giving her so much pain that she was not able to walk properly without pain.

As she was waiting for the doc in the clinic her heart was pounding, what if the doc says he has to do surgery, how would she be able to handle all the responsibilities that lay on her shoulders. It was then that she was asked to come in and the doc told her it was not a corn but internal infection which needs to be operated, it was exactly what she did not want to hear. She felt like her heart is going to sink and so many different questions starting raving her mind especially when the doc said we can do it right away it just takes 10 minutes.

“10 min, now ,oh my God “ thought Sheila 

“ It is just a 10 min laser treatment and no precautions required after that except some antibiotic cream application. You would need four such treatments” said the doc. 

“Oh, OK ” she thought, the word treatment was word that did not frighten her and was much easier to handle. As she lay on the bed for her foot to be treated the fear sprung up again in her mind like a demon but with two pin pricking shots all was over.

 “You can walk home now Sheila “ said the doc. 

That’s it !!! She thought, “Wow, that was quick and everybody else had scared me by saying I have to undergo surgery for this” she told the doc and, he smiled back at her.  

Suddenly all her fear had vanished and she returned home put the antibiotic cream and sat on the couch thinking with a cup of coffee in her hands. 

She started wondering how sometimes some particular words have such an impact on us and how fear of something can take over our lives and block us from living it to the fullest. She thought how life has its own ways of teaching and if we learn from it we would know how to handle it the next time it springs up its head again.

• You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember, fear doesn’t exist anywhere except in the mind. - Dale Carnegie  

 

• Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy. - Dale Carnegie

 

• Confront your fears, list them, get to know them, and only then will you be able to put them aside and move ahead. - Jerry Gillies

 Acknowledgements :

Photographer – Andy Newson

Site : http://www.freedigitalphotos.net/images/Younger_Women_g57-Scared_p983.html

The Blame Game !!!!

 

The Blame Game

 

 

 

Whenever we point fingers at others most of the fingers point towards us !!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

Often I find all of getting stuck in what is called the Blame game which makes us feel better to blame others for the situation that we are in today. There are certain situations which definitely are not in our control and beyond the boundaries of human expectations while there are some in which we blame others for bringing us to that point.

Let us try and analyze that situation in your life.

If you were to imagine a particular situation that you are or were in where you thought it was someone else’s fault and look at the situation again and experience all that went into creating the situation and then, ask yourself :

How is other responsible for the situation that you are in ?

How are you responsible for the situation ?

Only if you could take the responsibility of your thoughts and actions in that situation and ask yourself

What could I have done differently, taking the responsibility of the situation , that could have made a difference ?

Now look at the situation again, what is different in your thoughts ?

You will find that taking responsibility frees us from getting stuck or bound to the person and gives you the freedom to take charge and do something about it.

So don’t get hooked up in the blame game, be responsible and contribute.

Share your experiences with me.

Be Well

Coach Nupur

 

PS : Photographer : Michal Marcol, http://www.freedigitalphotos.net/images/Gestures_g185-Point_p13133.html

Stranger / Friend ?

  Stranger / Friend ?

 

 Sometimes a stranger becomes a good friend rather than our own friends.

 Have you wondered why ?

 Let’s have a look at the situation, how many times do we get back to our friends to ask how they are or how was the day, not so often as life brings in business with it. We devote the time according to what we think is important and necessary to us and in the process sometimes our friends are left behind. In the fast life to sustain the pressure becomes a pressure in itself.

So then what is the alternative ?

Well remember the time you were in school or college or not so busy did you take time out to call your friends or chat with them or meet them ?

 As with the technology now-a-days it is much easier to be in touch with Internet , mails, messengers, Skype and this can be done in split second.

 Where there is will there is a way !!!

 So how about getting back to some of your near and dear ones this week with whatever way that works for you and making them feel special and making them friends again !!!!

 Give it a TRY !!!

Share your experiences with me

 Be Well

Nupur

PS : I acknowledge and thank the strangers who have become great  friends !!! Thank You

Highly Sensitive People !!

Today I want to update all those who are not aware of this term of Highly Sensitive People. It has been found that 20% of people are found to be in this particular category and have been mis – labelled as shy/ introvert / timid.

A term originally coined by Elaine Aron, PhD stating that one in every five people is a HSP.

A Highly sensitive person is a person whose nervous system is uncommonly sensitive and are very aware of subtleties in the environment like sounds, light, aromas etc. It is a trait that can be an asset, used carefully, not a flaw or a syndrome.

Are you and HSP ? Read below some of the traits as defined by Elaine Aron :

Are you easily overwhelmed by such things as bright lights, strong smells, coarse fabrics, or sirens nearby?

Do you get rattled when you have a lot to do in a short amount of time?

Do you make a point of avoiding violent movies and TV shows?

Do you need to withdraw during busy days, into bed or a darkened room or some other place where you can have privacy and relief from the situation?

Do you make it a high priority to arrange your life to avoid upsetting or overwhelming situations?

Do you notice or enjoy delicate or fine scents, tastes, sounds, or works of art?

Do you have a rich and complex inner life?

When you were a child, did your parents or teachers see you as sensitive or shy?

Very interesting is the fact that these Sensitive souls contribute a lot to art, creativity, music etc  as they are aware of the sensitiveness of things and that 30% of HSP are extroverts

If you are a HSP come and share your experiences with me !!!

Be Well

Coach Nupur

Further Reading : http://www.hsperson.com/pages/hsp.htm

Test if you are an HSP : http://www.hsperson.com/pages/test.htm

A Simple Challenge for you !!!

Well you must be wondering ‘Simple Challenge’ , how come it is simple and yet a challenge,  let me tell you the beauty of it all. Life has its own ways of throwing challenges at us and it is how we handle those determines how we come out of them.

As I moved countries trying to repatriate to my home country after 10 years of staying abroad I faced with series of challenges like missing my friends, shifting my work, change in the environment, change in the culture, thinking patterns etc. It was quite overwhelming at times and it was then some of my old friends got together and made an effort to connect to me and slowly and gradually I started feeling more comfortable. So to-day I took this opportunity to acknowledge those friends that made it happen and thank them. It felt good to be able to do so.

So now I throw this simple challenge to you to go ahead and acknowledge and thank those who made a difference in your lives and provided love/support for you. It is so simple yet most of us forget it and so I challenge you to thank at least 10 people in this coming week.

Are you ready for this SIMPLE CHALLENGE of mine ????

Share your experiences with  me !!

Be Well

Coach Nupur

A Summer Bonanza offer !!!

Hi All,

As summer is here for some and approaching for others it brings in an opportunity to give yourself a break and ponder over things that mean a lot you and you need to accomplish in life. Imagine a time 5 years from now, at that stage looking back on your life what are the things you wish to see accomplished  ?

So here is a Summer Bonanza offer for all as I offer

• 10 % off on Coaching services for a package of three months.
• 15 % off on Coaching Services for a package of  six months
• 20 % off on Coaching Services for a Package of 9 – 12 months.
• 20 % off on Coaching Services as a Retainer for 9 -12 months.

In order to avail this offer please contact me at    http://transformationcoach.wordpress.com/contact/

Please don’t forget to mention the Summer Bonanza offer.

Be Well and Act fast, Action is the only way which would lead you to your Goals.

Coach Nupur

I have a Dream

I Have A Dream

This is certainly true for me as it is my dream which keeps me moving in that direction.

A dream helps to cope with any situation that comes in life to move forwards making the destination worthwhile.

Do you have a dream ?

Come and share your dream !!!

Be Well

Coach Nupur

Success.

What is your  definition of Success ?

Few definitions that you would find are :

• an event that accomplishes its intended purpose
• a state of prosperity or fame.

These are some definitions and many more that one would find but do all of these hold the same meaning for all.

It means something different to different people and thus the definition varies from person to person depending on situations/circumstances one is in and his/her values. it could mean things like :

• Being Happy/Contended
• Financially strong
• Famous
• Being a leader
• Holding good position.

Now let us look at two different situations.

1) A person who is a CEO  of a reputed Public Ltd Company who is treated as a mentor, a leader and a successful person. Taking a second side of the same situation this person has very good connections and has loads of friends but does not help/support a friend who he/she knows might need support, as his /her friend is in a difficult life situation because he/she has  lost of a loved ones.

2)  Let us take a second example of a house wife who finds content and happiness in keeping her house in order and doing the best possible for her children and husband. She spends her lifetime doing selflessly for her family, relatives, friends without thinking of her needs and according to her she is very succesful as she provided a safe and nurturing environment for her whole family and friends.

Who do you think is successful and why ?

Please share your thoughts and feelings and make this a hot discussion.

Be Well

Nupur

PS : This article is dedicated to an old friend who I met after long and who mentioned some of our common friends being successful. It was then that I had an urge to start this discussion so as to be clear about what is success ?

These are real life situations which most of us have experienced.

 

The Leader Within You.

The Leader within You

All of us are born leaders , God gave each one of us a special gift in which we excel and thus it is our moral duty to respect what God has gifted us. The most important thing to do is to search within us the special quality that makes us, that represents us and tells us who we are.

So YOU can always nurture yourself and be the leader of your life, all YOU have to do is to nurture The Leader Within You.

So the how and where do we start doing it ?

YOU can start by defining who YOU are ?

• Writing down your strengths..
• Writing down your weaknesses.
• Writing your goals.
• Checking if these are aligned with your strengths.
• If not then find the missing link.
• Once they are aligned writing what stops You from reaching your goals.
• Acting on the things that stop you.
• Persistently trying to work on them.
• Finally reaching your goals.

Though it seems like a long process and this is where a coach can help you and walk it with you.

Find the leader within you so that you can lead your life with satisfaction of being :

WHO YOU REALLY ARE

Ten Years from now do you want to look back and regret not having done this to fulfill your life ?

If you are already there achieving your dreams and Being the leader you are then I congratulate you and acknowledge you.

Come and share this with me on http://theacknowledgementcorner.wordpress.com/  or else here.

Be Well
Coach Nupur