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In today’s world where there is so much tension of finances, jobs, household cleaning, maintaining relationships, maintaining a status, kids studies, balanced foods, exercising , relaxing and so many other issues that our minds are bombarded with. How many times in a day do you seriously have a feel of life’s simple pleasures? Why is it that those moments seem nothing yet we feel there is so much tension and work to be done in life. People like me who are analytical or the thinkers or the HSP find it so hard to merely exist in today’s world. Every single day is a struggle to survive and there are very few days where there is a sense of satisfaction of living and being alive. Why is it in today’s time when there is so much technology and growth in all fields we still feel that there is no peace, love and enjoyment and we drift more towards alcohol or drugs or else depression? Why is it that this temporary happiness seems the happy moments of life without realizing that slowly we are turning into alcoholics or drug addicts or constant sense of self worthlessness and that we feel there is no life without it?

There is so much happening in our lives that we hardly give credit to the amount of things we do in the day. A mere daily existence which includes innumerous tasks become null and void and then days at end they turn into monotonous household work or nothing. One of the main reasons for this is that we don’t respect and acknowledge the things we do in a day and we do same for other special members of the family and as a result we take everyone and everything for granted. We actually bury ourselves under the mere existence of life.

Since there is so much that seems like work we tend not to enjoy the small pleasures that life brings us. In this turmoil of life events we tend not to appreciate what we have and as a result develop a habit of complain or tantrum or cribbing or whatever name you want to give it. We get so addicted to it that sometimes small inner happiness seems nothing to us. We all have been told that the happiness is within us it’s because we look outside we feel things are missing and we are living in the world of deprivation rather than abundance. How , how are we to feel all this when are minds and hearts are clogged with tension, hate, jealousy and all the other emotions that we attach negative connotations to. We digress towards alcohol or spending time with people outside our family or circle and there are more and more of drugs and alcohol and extra marital affairs… why ?

The reason is simple we always want a little excitement in our lives and that we get from things outside of us as we ourselves are buried under the drama of life we have created ourselves or due to the society we live in. It is like a teenager living under peer pressure accepts things that are not good for him due to it.

So inorder to reduce this tension, drama and the buried grave of ourselves we need to thrive for things that give us small pleasures in life and learn the art of satisfaction without having to compete with society / anything or anybody ways of living or pressures. The art of knowing who we really are at the core which often we don’t know, we would have known what simple things we could do in our current situation that would make us feel complete or happy or fulfilled.

So let’s start with finding out who we are at core in this new Year and move forwards to a more satisfying life ahead. It’s high time for change. Work with me during this new year to go step by step all the way into creating the change and Re-Inventing Yourself.

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Today while I was doing meditation a sudden feeling of calm and peace dawned on me and I wondered how many of us get caught up in the drama of life and loose this simple necessity of life. We are all at different phases of life where it might be essential to devote time to other needs of life like work (finances are important), kids n other half (family is important) and social commitments (social life is important) but what is the ultimate goal of life?

Is that what you came here to do?

Each of us is here to take care of a certain task without which the world would not be the world we live in and so it is important to find that path too and once we start travelling that path a sense of achievement, happiness and calmness will automatically dawn on you. Many people say it’s difficult, yes it is who said life is a bed of no thorn roses, even the roses have thorns. So your calling will come but at the right time when you are destined to move into it. One thing is sure that Universe does give you loads of suggestions, intuitions and guidance and it is upto you to take it. It is upto you to open up to frequencies of the universe.

Having said that it doesn’t mean that we are not on our way to our calling, each and every situation, circumstance, event or people who come into our lives make us what we have to become. We learn and grow with it and move on our path to attaining our goals, the only condition, you discover where you are going and where you want to be else you will be going in circles without identifying and enjoying the journey or the goal of your life.

Have trust and faith and tune in your vibes to frequencies of the Universe and your calling will become clear to you.

 

Loads of Blessings and Best Wishes

CoachNupur

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Wishing you All a Very Happy New Year 2013

As we enter New Year its time to set New Goals filled with hope and dreams !

So let’s get going and set S.M.A.R.T. Goals !!!!

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S : Specific

M: Measurable

A: Attainable

R: Realistic

T: Timely / Tangible         

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Specific:  A specific goal has a much greater chance of being accomplished than a general goal. To set a specific goal you must answer the six “W” questions:

*Who: Who is involved?

*What: What do I want to accomplish?

*Where: Identify a location.

*When: Establish a time frame.

*Which: Identify requirements and constraints.

*Why: Specific reasons, purpose or benefits of accomplishing the goal.

EXAMPLE: A general goal would be, “Get in shape.” But a specific goal would say, “Join a health club and workout 3 days a week.”


Measurable – Establish concrete criteria for measuring progress toward the attainment of each goal you set.

When you measure your progress, you stay on track, reach your target dates, and experience the exhilaration of achievement that spurs you on to continued effort required to reach your goal.

To determine if your goal is measurable, ask questions such as……

How much? How many?

How will I know when it is accomplished?


Attainable– When you identify goals that are most important to you, you begin to figure out ways you can make them come true. You develop the attitudes, abilities, skills, and financial capacity to reach them. You begin seeing previously overlooked opportunities to bring yourself closer to the achievement of your goals.

You can attain most any goal you set when you plan your steps wisely and establish a time frame that allows you to carry out those steps. Goals that may have seemed far away and out of reach eventually move closer and become attainable, not because your goals shrink, but because you grow and expand to match them. When you list your goals you build your self-image. You see yourself as worthy of these goals, and develop the traits and personality that allow you to possess them.


Realistic– To be realistic, a goal must represent an objective toward which you are both willing and able to work. A goal can be both high and realistic; you are the only one who can decide just how high your goal should be. But be sure that every goal represents substantial progress.

A high goal is frequently easier to reach than a low one because a low goal exerts low motivational force. Some of the hardest jobs you ever accomplished actually seem easy simply because they were hard labour.


Timely – A goal should be grounded within a time frame. With no time frame tied to it there’s no sense of urgency. If you want to lose 10 lbs /Kgs , when do you want to lose it by? “Someday” won’t work. But if you anchor it within a timeframe, “by May 1st”, then you’ve set your unconscious mind into motion to begin working on the goal. Your goal is probably realistic if you truly believe that it can be accomplished. Additional ways to know if your goal is realistic is to determine if you have accomplished anything similar in the past or ask yourself what conditions would have to exist to accomplish this goal.

T can also stand for Tangible  –  A goal is tangible when you can experience it with one of the senses, that is, taste, touch, smell, sight or hearing.

When your goal is tangible you have a better chance of making it specific and measurable and thus attainable.

Acknowledgements :

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/wired-success/201104/why-goal-setting-doesnt-work

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The Blame Game

 

 

 

Whenever we point fingers at others most of the fingers point towards us !!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

Often I find all of getting stuck in what is called the Blame game which makes us feel better to blame others for the situation that we are in today. There are certain situations which definitely are not in our control and beyond the boundaries of human expectations while there are some in which we blame others for bringing us to that point.

Let us try and analyze that situation in your life.

If you were to imagine a particular situation that you are or were in where you thought it was someone else’s fault and look at the situation again and experience all that went into creating the situation and then, ask yourself :

How is other responsible for the situation that you are in ?

How are you responsible for the situation ?

Only if you could take the responsibility of your thoughts and actions in that situation and ask yourself

What could I have done differently, taking the responsibility of the situation , that could have made a difference ?

Now look at the situation again, what is different in your thoughts ?

You will find that taking responsibility frees us from getting stuck or bound to the person and gives you the freedom to take charge and do something about it.

So don’t get hooked up in the blame game, be responsible and contribute.

Share your experiences with me.

Be Well

Coach Nupur

 

PS : Photographer : Michal Marcol, http://www.freedigitalphotos.net/images/Gestures_g185-Point_p13133.html

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The Leader within You

All of us are born leaders , God gave each one of us a special gift in which we excel and thus it is our moral duty to respect what God has gifted us. The most important thing to do is to search within us the special quality that makes us, that represents us and tells us who we are.

So YOU can always nurture yourself and be the leader of your life, all YOU have to do is to nurture The Leader Within You.

So the how and where do we start doing it ?

YOU can start by defining who YOU are ?

  • Writing down your strengths..
  • Writing down your weaknesses.
  • Writing your goals.
  • Checking if these are aligned with your strengths.
  • If not then find the missing link.
  • Once they are aligned writing what stops You from reaching your goals.
  • Acting on the things that stop you.
  • Persistently trying to work on them.
  • Finally reaching your goals.

Though it seems like a long process and this is where a coach can help you and walk it with you.

Find the leader within you so that you can lead your life with satisfaction of being :

WHO YOU REALLY ARE

Ten Years from now do you want to look back and regret not having done this to fulfill your life ?

If you are already there achieving your dreams and Being the leader you are then I congratulate you and acknowledge you.

Come and share this with me on http://theacknowledgementcorner.wordpress.com/  or else here.

Be Well
Coach Nupur

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Here is a self discovery story,  Authentic ME,  of a young lady called Lisa.

As Lisa was sitting at the window watching her beautiful garden with Red Roses and yellow Sunflowers she felt a strong breeze of air touching her. She was enjoying her garden like she had never seen before and at that spur of the moment sun rose into the sky and sunshine fell on her face and slowly and slowly the rays went stronger and stronger and she felt as if it wanted to tell her – ‘Open your Eyes Now and see the real world’. Suddenly she felt live again and thought of writing what she was feeling and here is what she wrote :

It is time I express myself to the world and tell who I really am, the more I write  the more comfortable it gets and the more easier it gets to express my feelings and let go of them.  This continuous stream of feelings bottled up inside me would one day make a complete mess of the life that I live today. All these feelings need to come out lest  lead to loneliness and finally depression. As I write I discover that it is actually easy for me to write on myself though I find it so difficult to pen down my thoughts on any other subject. It is then I look back on my life, I find it is so because I have never let my feelings come out in front of others and all this while I have been lying to the world for who I am. I have been trying to move with the world accepting everything that came my way without ever thinking of expressing myself  of things, situations and people who were not even close to who I really  am. I was a People Pleaser. All the while I was afraid of showing my real self due to fear of rejection or fear of not being accepted or at times being different. Even my closest friends don’t know me ,  ‘ The Sensitive ME’.  So now how do I tell the world of my truth and also expect being accepted without  judgements, prejudices and advises.

What should I do and how do I prepare myself for it ?

And then she stopped as this was ‘The Time’ for action and she thought I must do something to move forwards.

Now is the time for world to discover The Authentic ME.

If you feel connected to any part of Lisa’s Story do share your experiences with me. Come forth and I would love to walk you through your journey.

Be Well

Coach Nupur

PS: The story is fictitious and so are the characters.

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