The Fear Factor


As Sheila was fighting with the thought of going to the doctor for small thing such as a corn on her feet , it was the thought of her having to go through the surgery to remove it that was freaking her out. Imagine if she would have told somebody of the thoughts that were bruising her mind they would laugh at her, but it was the word surgery that was overwhelming for her. Actually it was after she had gone through six surgeries of which two were major ones the word had developed a negative impact on her. She somehow mustered up the courage to go to the doc anyways, since it was something she was avoiding for past one month and it was giving her so much pain that she was not able to walk properly without pain.

As she was waiting for the doc in the clinic her heart was pounding, what if the doc says he has to do surgery, how would she be able to handle all the responsibilities that lay on her shoulders. It was then that she was asked to come in and the doc told her it was not a corn but internal infection which needs to be operated, it was exactly what she did not want to hear. She felt like her heart is going to sink and so many different questions starting raving her mind especially when the doc said we can do it right away it just takes 10 minutes.

10 min, now ,oh my God “ thought Sheila 

It is just a 10 min laser treatment and no precautions required after that except some antibiotic cream application. You would need four such treatments” said the doc. 

Oh, OK ” she thought, the word treatment was word that did not frighten her and was much easier to handle. As she lay on the bed for her foot to be treated the fear sprung up again in her mind like a demon but with two pin pricking shots all was over.

 You can walk home now Sheila “ said the doc. 

That’s it !!! She thought, “Wow, that was quick and everybody else had scared me by saying I have to undergo surgery for this” she told the doc and, he smiled back at her.  

Suddenly all her fear had vanished and she returned home put the antibiotic cream and sat on the couch thinking with a cup of coffee in her hands. 

She started wondering how sometimes some particular words have such an impact on us and how fear of something can take over our lives and block us from living it to the fullest. She thought how life has its own ways of teaching and if we learn from it we would know how to handle it the next time it springs up its head again.

  • You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember, fear doesn’t exist anywhere except in the mind. – Dale Carnegie  


  • Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy. – Dale Carnegie


  • Confront your fears, list them, get to know them, and only then will you be able to put them aside and move ahead. – Jerry Gillies

 Acknowledgements :

Photographer – Andy Newson

Site : http://www.freedigitalphotos.net/images/Younger_Women_g57-Scared_p983.html


The Blame Game !!!!


The Blame Game




Whenever we point fingers at others most of the fingers point towards us !!!







Often I find all of getting stuck in what is called the Blame game which makes us feel better to blame others for the situation that we are in today. There are certain situations which definitely are not in our control and beyond the boundaries of human expectations while there are some in which we blame others for bringing us to that point.

Let us try and analyze that situation in your life.

If you were to imagine a particular situation that you are or were in where you thought it was someone else’s fault and look at the situation again and experience all that went into creating the situation and then, ask yourself :

How is other responsible for the situation that you are in ?

How are you responsible for the situation ?

Only if you could take the responsibility of your thoughts and actions in that situation and ask yourself

What could I have done differently, taking the responsibility of the situation , that could have made a difference ?

Now look at the situation again, what is different in your thoughts ?

You will find that taking responsibility frees us from getting stuck or bound to the person and gives you the freedom to take charge and do something about it.

So don’t get hooked up in the blame game, be responsible and contribute.

Share your experiences with me.

Be Well

Coach Nupur


PS : Photographer : Michal Marcol, http://www.freedigitalphotos.net/images/Gestures_g185-Point_p13133.html

Stranger / Friend ?

  Stranger / Friend ?


 Sometimes a stranger becomes a good friend rather than our own friends.

 Have you wondered why ?

 Let’s have a look at the situation, how many times do we get back to our friends to ask how they are or how was the day, not so often as life brings in business with it. We devote the time according to what we think is important and necessary to us and in the process sometimes our friends are left behind. In the fast life to sustain the pressure becomes a pressure in itself.

So then what is the alternative ?

Well remember the time you were in school or college or not so busy did you take time out to call your friends or chat with them or meet them ?

 As with the technology now-a-days it is much easier to be in touch with Internet , mails, messengers, Skype and this can be done in split second.

 Where there is will there is a way !!!

 So how about getting back to some of your near and dear ones this week with whatever way that works for you and making them feel special and making them friends again !!!!

 Give it a TRY !!!

Share your experiences with me

 Be Well


PS : I acknowledge and thank the strangers who have become great  friends !!! Thank You 🙂

Today I want to update all those who are not aware of this term of Highly Sensitive People. It has been found that 20% of people are found to be in this particular category and have been mis – labelled as shy/ introvert / timid.

A term originally coined by Elaine Aron, PhD stating that one in every five people is a HSP.

A Highly sensitive person is a person whose nervous system is uncommonly sensitive and are very aware of subtleties in the environment like sounds, light, aromas etc. It is a trait that can be an asset, used carefully, not a flaw or a syndrome.

Are you and HSP ? Read below some of the traits as defined by Elaine Aron :

  • Are you easily overwhelmed by such things as bright lights, strong smells, coarse fabrics, or sirens nearby?
  • Do you get rattled when you have a lot to do in a short amount of time?
  • Do you make a point of avoiding violent movies and TV shows?
  • Do you need to withdraw during busy days, into bed or a darkened room or some other place where you can have privacy and relief from the situation?
  • Do you make it a high priority to arrange your life to avoid upsetting or overwhelming situations?
  • Do you notice or enjoy delicate or fine scents, tastes, sounds, or works of art?
  • Do you have a rich and complex inner life?
  • When you were a child, did your parents or teachers see you as sensitive or shy?
  • Very interesting is the fact that these Sensitive souls contribute a lot to art, creativity, music etc  as they are aware of the sensitiveness of things and that 30% of HSP are extroverts

    If you are a HSP come and share your experiences with me !!!

    Be Well

    Coach Nupur

    Further Reading : http://www.hsperson.com/pages/hsp.htm

    Test if you are an HSP : http://www.hsperson.com/pages/test.htm

    Well you must be wondering ‘Simple Challenge’ , how come it is simple and yet a challenge,  let me tell you the beauty of it all. Life has its own ways of throwing challenges at us and it is how we handle those determines how we come out of them.

    As I moved countries trying to repatriate to my home country after 10 years of staying abroad I faced with series of challenges like missing my friends, shifting my work, change in the environment, change in the culture, thinking patterns etc. It was quite overwhelming at times and it was then some of my old friends got together and made an effort to connect to me and slowly and gradually I started feeling more comfortable. So to-day I took this opportunity to acknowledge those friends that made it happen and thank them. It felt good to be able to do so.

    So now I throw this simple challenge to you to go ahead and acknowledge and thank those who made a difference in your lives and provided love/support for you. It is so simple yet most of us forget it and so I challenge you to thank at least 10 people in this coming week.

    Are you ready for this SIMPLE CHALLENGE of mine ????

    Share your experiences with  me !!

    Be Well

    Coach Nupur

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    Be Well and Act fast, Action is the only way which would lead you to your Goals.

    Coach Nupur

    I have a Dream

    I Have A Dream

    This is certainly true for me as it is my dream which keeps me moving in that direction.

    A dream helps to cope with any situation that comes in life to move forwards making the destination worthwhile.

    Do you have a dream ?

    Come and share your dream !!!

    Be Well

    Coach Nupur